I belong to two moms group, the Indonesian moms and the American ones. Once a month we would get together without kids and hubbies, and just hang out. Occasionally we would have a family event together. Last night I had “girls night out” with my fellow American moms. We went to Jliu restaurant during happy hour, ordered appetizers and martinis. I had a total blast. I have to tell you that I have met so many wonderful moms from both groups, and these people really keep me sane. Here’s what typically happened when a bunch of moms get together:
- We complain about our hubbies. We love ‘em dearly, but talking about them is just unavoidable. It’s like eating pizza without beer, burger without fries, reality TV without drama. You get the idea. No moms’ day out complete without bashing on our hubbies. Some of the things moms typically complain about:
- How often they get to go out to either play sports or simply hang out with friends
- How little they involve in taking care of household (very typical in Asian households)
- Throwing temper tantrum when they get frustrated
- Kids kids kids!!! Potty training, sleeping through the night, troubles they got in school, bad habit, transitioning from crib to a “big boy’s bed”, super-hyper kids. Boy… don’t we love ‘em?
- Last but not least… Mother-in-Law. Super protective mother-in-law, those who know it all and try to teach us how to raise our children using ancient knowledge, Mrs. Santa Clause who shower our kids with excessive gifts, or the one who simply don’t want to be bothered by our kids are the typical “black listed” mother-in-laws
Although it might seem like all we do is complaining, we just want to share our experience that being a mom is the hardest yet most rewarding job ever. Sharing our frustration about the job we cannot quit to fellow moms is just a way of telling ourselves that we are not alone and we do something right in the end.
